Comments for Nursing Birth http://nursingbirth.com One Labor & Delivery Nurse's View From the Inside Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:30:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on The Ol’ Bait and Switch, OR Finding Out Your OB Has Been Leading You On by Kelly Fischer http://nursingbirth.com/2009/10/21/the-ol-bait-and-switch-or-finding-out-your-ob-has-been-leading-you-on/#comment-2916 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 15:30:35 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=417#comment-2916 Brianna,
First I just want to tell you how proud I am of you for all the hard work and effort you have put in to have a VBAC! You have every reason to be angry right now! It sounds to me like you are facing the exact same scare tactic as I was: “early eviction date”. This post that Nursing Birth so graciously wrote about – was my story. (I am eternally grateful to you Nursing Birth, and for everyone who wrote such amazing supportive comments, I love you all!!!) 2 years after my VBAC I can tell you that all the stress and fighting was totally worth it. I am a changed person, my marriage is changed and I am committed to helping other moms not have to go through what I did, all alone. (by founding my own local ICAN chapter)

What I felt like I had to do was ditch my last OB appointments after 37 weeks (which I DON’T recommend), and just showed up in labor at 41 weeks 3 days. Thankfully my labor was much shorter (only 18 hours instead of 5 days) and things went great! My hubby had to do a bit of fighting for me while we were in the hospital, but it was just to avoid having them break my bag of waters, and keep them from doing vaginal exams all the time, and to have them let me nap when I wanted to.

Brianna, please feel free to email me if you want someone to talk to in person! You do not deserve to be bullied in the last few days/weeks of your pregnancy! You deserve a real chance at VBAC! My email address is: icanofnortheastiowa@gmail.com and I highly recommend contacting your local ICAN chapter: http://ican-online.org/chapter/search (there are chapters in Indianapolis, Fort Wayne, Northwest Indiana, and Tippecanoe County).

Sincerely,
Kelly Fischer
Chapter Leader
ICAN of Northeast Iowa
icanofnortheastiowa@gmail.com
neiowa.ican-online.org

]]> Comment on The Ol’ Bait and Switch, OR Finding Out Your OB Has Been Leading You On by Brianna http://nursingbirth.com/2009/10/21/the-ol-bait-and-switch-or-finding-out-your-ob-has-been-leading-you-on/#comment-2915 Tue, 31 Jan 2012 06:00:41 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=417#comment-2915 My first daughter was born via c-s at a large military hospital in San Diego. Officially, the reason for the c-section was the fact that I have Arnold-Chiari malformation. It is ‘now known’ that AC malformation is NOT a reason to have a c-section, and the surgery was not necessary. More accurately, they scared me into ‘choosing’ a c-section.
After my husband completed his enlistment, we moved back to rural Indiana and decided to have another child. After researching on my own, I decided to attempt a VBAC. The doctor I chose originally, apart from many other problems I had with him, was emphatically anti-VBAC. I took the advice of friends in the area and switched to a more experienced OB in town. His first words were, “You know you have to have a c-section, right?” So I gave up.
Then, I hit the net. That’s when I realized it wasn’t the doctors. It’s the hospitals. No facility within 30 miles allowed VBAC’s to be performed. At my next appointment, I mustered the courage and asked if VBAC was an option. To which he responded, “Absolutely. I used to do VBAC’s routinely, and never had a major problem occur. Unfortunately, this hospital won’t allow me to perform one anymore. I know someone who can do it. But you’re in for a drive.” He refered me to an OB at a much larger hospital about 45 minutes from home.
For those of you counting, this is doc #3.
I was amazed. Finally, a doctor that was openly admitting everything I had researched about the politics involved with VBAC, and how insurance companies rather than OB’s control it’s acceptance.
At every appointment, I was given an ultrasound to make sure my baby wasn’t getting too big and to rule out position problems, both of which would pull the plug on VBAC. I was given more and more encouragement as each hurdle was cleared. I thought it was strange that he decided to strip my membranes at 37 weeks and only 2cm dialated, but who am I to second guess a doctor? Especially one that’s on MY side!
Last week, he drops the bomb.
“Well, you haven’t progressed any in 5 days. Ethically, I can’t induce you. If we don’t see something happen in a week, we’ll have to pick a date.”
At this point, I was 38 weeks, 2 days. I’m now 39 weeks, 1 day. So essentially, I have 36 hours to go into labor, or I’m getting a repeat c-section.
This is the ONLY doctor at the ONLY facility available to me that even agreed to try. I’m stuck. I feel like this whole ordeal has been a complete waste of time. I’ve been driving 75 miles round-trip every 3 weeks, and now every 6-7 days to get a natural birth experience. Now, because my cervix hasn’t dialated EARLY, I’m going to end up with another major abdominal surgery that I don’t need, and more importantly, will effect our decisions about more children in the future. Furthermore, one that I could’ve gotten here in my hometown with the doctor everyone recommended in the first place!
I feel betrayed and desperate. This is not how I want to feel in the days before I give birth.

]]> Comment on Top 10 DOs & DON’Ts of Pooping During Labor & Birth by Whitney http://nursingbirth.com/2009/03/15/top-10-dos-don%e2%80%99ts-of-pooping-during-labor-birth/#comment-2914 Mon, 30 Jan 2012 03:04:09 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-2914 I’m so glad this article has been written. It’s such a relief to me. I’m still embarrassed, but hearing it from a ld nurse really helps because it doesn’t make me feel nasty. Which it shouldn’t, because after all, it is natural.

]]> Comment on Top 10 DOs & DON’Ts of Pooping During Labor & Birth by Genilene http://nursingbirth.com/2009/03/15/top-10-dos-don%e2%80%99ts-of-pooping-during-labor-birth/#comment-2898 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 07:52:52 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-2898 I was sooo worried about the whole pooping thing, but feel so much more at ease now. I really believe in what you said about facing your fears as I want to be as prepared as I can possibly be in order for my baby to born healthy. Thank you so much for this amazing site!!

]]> Comment on Top 10 DOs & DON’Ts of Pooping During Labor & Birth by Genilene http://nursingbirth.com/2009/03/15/top-10-dos-don%e2%80%99ts-of-pooping-during-labor-birth/#comment-2897 Fri, 27 Jan 2012 07:50:31 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-2897 Hahaha!!

]]> Comment on Top 10 DOs & DON’Ts of Pooping During Labor & Birth by Felicity http://nursingbirth.com/2009/03/15/top-10-dos-don%e2%80%99ts-of-pooping-during-labor-birth/#comment-2895 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 15:14:00 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-2895 So I have the right to refuse an enema before being induced? I’m being induced in 2 days for my 4th child and I have a new OB. She said I have to have an enema and I have never had one before delivery. Frankly, its been freaking me out for the last 2 days!

]]> Comment on Top 8 Ways to Have an Unnecessary Cesarean Section by Zoya Gesina (@SakinahAbdullah) http://nursingbirth.com/2009/04/03/top-8-ways-to-have-an-unnecessary-cesarean-section/#comment-2894 Mon, 23 Jan 2012 23:48:24 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=105#comment-2894 Thank you for your article. Too many women are uneducated and their doctors want to keep them that way. That’s why I chose a midwife (thank goodness I am not a high-risk patient who needs an OB. I know some people have to deliver with them and have no choice). They are less likely to bully you into all these interventions and procedures.

]]> Comment on Top 10 DOs & DON’Ts of Pooping During Labor & Birth by Jazzy http://nursingbirth.com/2009/03/15/top-10-dos-don%e2%80%99ts-of-pooping-during-labor-birth/#comment-2886 Sat, 21 Jan 2012 14:20:47 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-2886 After reading all these posts i do feel alot less worried about pooping but at the same time it makes me think:

“damn by the sounds of it there is no chance i wont poop”

haha but i guess it most likely wont be as bad as i imagine

]]> Comment on Top 10 DOs & DON’Ts of Pooping During Labor & Birth by Curious http://nursingbirth.com/2009/03/15/top-10-dos-don%e2%80%99ts-of-pooping-during-labor-birth/#comment-2862 Sat, 17 Dec 2011 01:03:43 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=67#comment-2862 So how did it go giving birth in September? What happened? I love all the posts… I was just curious…

]]> Comment on Consent for Anesthesia: Do You Know What You Are Signing? by Kayce http://nursingbirth.com/2009/05/05/consent-for-anesthesia-do-you-know-what-you-are-signing/#comment-2859 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 07:41:10 +0000 http://nursingbirth.wordpress.com/?p=169#comment-2859 I just started reading your blog and I love it!!! I am planning on becoming a nurse so I can eventually be a CNM, so I really enjoy all things birth, including (especially) blogs. Because I plan on being a nurse, I was able to do an observation in L&D at my local hospital. I got to watch an epidural and two births while there. What shocked me while I was there was that the anesthesiologist didn’t even give the mother the “informed” consent to sign until AFTER the procedure!!! He said it was because he wanted to make her comfortable so she wasn’t signing things while in pain. I was flabbergasted! I can’t believe the things that actually go on these days. I truly hope you will be able to make the changes you are striving for. I will be on my way to helping with that cause as soon as I can. :)

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